Those were very different times

Can you see the possible headlines? Can you guess the opposition’s reaction? The press and media would have wall-to-wall 24/7 coverage of the First Lady and her companion in today’s world. But Eleanor Roosevelt and Lorena Hickok pulled it off in 1930’s America with grace. What was illuminating to see is how differently society viewed marriage and relationships then and now. But Eleanor was ahead of her time in other ways. She had her own causes she rallied for, she was a sough-after speaker, involved in a diverse number of causes. She advised her husband on domestic and international affairs, but only offered her opinions. She was no Edith Wilson, who kept the public (and a great deal of Washington) unaware of the severity of her husband’s stroke. When Roosevelt was first stricken with polio, there was an effort to keep his condition semi-private. But FDR was able to serve, and Eleanor went on with her life. The press always seemed to be respectful (somewhat) where the President and First Lady were concerned. But the times when Eleanor and Hick, or even just Eleanor herself went on “adventures” wasn’t looked upon as foolish or dangerous. Many times the ladies were able to be out in the world, and no one was sticking a camera in Eleanor’s face. What was also very interesting was the face that life partnerships existed so out in the world, and at least no one in the Roosevelt’s circle seemed to care. Women lived together, as did men, and went about their lives. Being the First Lady did make for a more scrutinized life, but for the most part that relationship wasn’t criticized. And neither were FDR’s infidelities. They both looked the other way. Eleanor and Lorena were “good for each other”, and helped develop strength and courage to be brave in the face of the country’s financial fall. Lorena helped Eleanor step out of her shell, and Eleanor gave Lorena the time and affection she craved. Deep friendships are important like that, and both women grew for their shared experiences.